OoohhKKKKayyy, have you ever read the book by Stormie O Martian?  The one about praying for your husbands?

Remember the bit about her conversation with the Lord and she was saying…”Lord look at HIM!…CHANGE HIM LORD!!”  and the Lord answered..”I’m looking at YOU Stormie”…re,member that?  Well…..I’m right there too now. I dare not speak because I know that my words will NOT be edifying and they will be crushing.  Maybe I am feeling justified in wanting to be angry, but I know that is not the Lord’s way..it’s not my Lord’s way..so….I am going to make him a nice coffee, go into his music room and smile….nicely, but not sarcastically.  If you have EVER been there, then remember me and pray for my attitude..that it be the same as Christ Jesus..like some-body mentioned on another site I frequent, go and wash his feet.   Good advice that..now if Jesus could just change me by snapping his fingers..that would be just great!